When the Only Certainty is Uncertainty Itself

One of the hardest things to come to terms with in life, is that the only certainty is uncertainty itself. Change is inevitable, and that is not a bad thing. Sometimes it can seem bad, particularly when you face the need to alter life goals due to unforeseen circumstances – and sometimes this can happen more than once, like it did for me. This does not make it “bad”, all it means is that an adjustment period is required. In hindsight, it often appears that everything happens for a reason. There are pro’s and con’s for every situation.

In an ever-changing world, the only constant that remains to an individual are core values. These can help. Honestly, I have found that rebuilding confidence is quite difficult. I tend to struggle to believe in myself, and in my capabilities, on a regular basis. I tend to forget about what I have achieved, or the positive things I have done, and focus instead on what I cannot do. Thus, mindset makes a big difference. It is easy to fall down the rabbit hole of negativity, but once in there you need to find ways to climb back up instead of the much easier route of spiraling down. Discovering the root cause is a challenge within itself. For me, it was the realisation that I now seem to lack direction, which in turn made me feel hopeless and worthless. My whole life I was driven by what I wanted to work towards for my future, mainly career, lifestyle and such. I always dreamed of success and happiness in the working world. Hence, my life was practically turned upside down when I fell chronically ill. Instead of dwelling on this turning of events (as I had already done this enough, and probably a little too much), I decided to evaluate what exactly I missed about how my life used to be, in order to determine whether I could get back to a similar point, or at the very least to a similar mindset. Continue reading

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Adventure Awaits, Hidden in the Warburton Valley

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East Warburton Redwood Forest, Victoria

One of Victoria’s hidden gems is the Redwood Forest, east of the Warburton Valley. Without any official signage, besides on Google Maps, the forest has an aura of a secret, mystical place. The moment you step foot into the forest, you are instantly faced with a sense of calmness and wonder. The trees were planted in perfect rows that soften the noise of the outside world. Walking through the forest, all you can hear is the sounds of the birds that you cannot see, chirping away in the towering canopy above. The magnificent Redwood trees make you feel so small. In this way nature really has a way of putting things in perspective. It’s a beautiful place to explore, to sit and think, to have a picnic. A sense of clarity comes with being in the wilderness. There is no phone or data reception in the Redwood forest, but you will find a better connection.

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The towering canopy of Redwoods

Now Heritage listed in Victoria, the Californian Redwoods – Sequoia sempervirens, were planted in the 1930s by the Board of Works for experimental purposes, to study the canopy interception results in comparison with native forest trees. There are over 1,476 trees all planted in an aesthetically pleasing grid, some trees reaching up to 55 metres! Continue reading

Day Tripping – Sorrento and Surrounds

Day trips are a perfect way to adventure and to take some time out to refresh and revitalise. Being surrounded by nature makes me appreciate how beautiful the world can be. Taking in deep breaths, and paying attention to my surroundings automatically improves my posture and inner being. It brings an invigorating sense of harmony, and a Zen-like peaceful state. The Mornington Peninsula in Victoria is stunning, there are many places I could highlight. However, in this post I place a spotlight on some of my personal favourite spots – Sorrento Back Beach, Portsea Pier, and the London Bridge. Being limited in terms of how much walking or activities I can do, this is the perfect place to still see a lot and enjoy experiences within a close vicinity.

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Sorrento Back Beach

I love the atmosphere at Sorrento Back Beach.The fresh breeze of the ocean air. The vast coastline surrounded by the hills of the Mornington Peninsula National Park. Lined with sandstone cliffs and rock formations, there are many rock pools to explore – some deep enough to jump into off small rock platforms. Continue reading

A Perspective on the Pressures of Ambition

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Where does this overwhelming desire to “do more”, to “be more” seem to come from? Even when we are in the process of achieving our ambitions, there is this element of “what else” or “what more” can we achieve? Is it a generational thing, a personality thing, or merely the pressure we have put on ourselves? It seems that millennials in particular have been brought up with a necessity to “follow our dreams”, in a way that we not only should “live to work” but love it too. This is not necessarily a bad thing, however it can become a negative thing, if it compromises other aspects of our personal lives. The origin of the pressures, being the idea that it is not acceptable unless we are overachieving. It can seem that gaining economic security, on its own, is not enough. The overachieving mentality can become damaging because it has the power to contribute to anxiety, dissatisfaction, a lack of self-esteem, or confusion about the important things in life.

A career becomes a part of our image, our reputation. The way we see ourselves; what we feel we need to portray to those around us as a result. It contributes to driving our need to put extra pressure on ourselves. Whether we are good enough, whether we are worthy. Continue reading

An Elegy to my wonderful dog, Moose

Moose, you were the best dog I could have ever imagined. Words cannot describe how much I will always miss you.

I will miss not being able to take you to your favourite parks.

I will miss seeing you elated running through those muddy streams.

I will miss taking you to the beach, your enthusiasm when running along the sand or trotting blissfully through the water.

I will miss seeing the attention you loved receiving from the passerby’s who couldn’t resist patting you or taking a “selfie” with you.

I will miss taking you on adventures in the car, and how you would pop your head up to the window every so often to surprise others.

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An Ode to the Sutherland Shire

 

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Cronulla Rockpools

Love is a canvas furnished by Nature and embroidered by imagination.” – Voltaire

I miss living in Cronulla. Waking up in an apartment filled with natural light and fresh air. The circular window lighting up the kitchen, the lush forest of green trees behind it.

I miss going for a swim, at the ocean pool at Oak Park, first thing in the morning. The fresh ocean water reinvigorating my soul as I dived in. The feeling of the salt water making waves through my hair. The seagulls dancing on the rocks amidst the crashing waves. The abundance of the green grass in the park above. The frangipani tree lined footpaths leading the way. Continue reading

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent”

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Self-consciousness, what drives it? Why do we seek validation or approval? Is it not enough to be satisfied with our own opinions concerning matters pertaining to ourselves? Societal pressures often cause people to pander to this need of being accepted by the collective whole. I get it, collectivism can be very supportive. It can feel good, and can foster a sense of “belonging”.  A lot of people feel the need to be liked by others. There is nothing wrong with this, unless it harms the person themselves or others around them. I know of people who choose not to act a certain way, or will choose not to do something because of a fear of “what will other people think?” This has the disabling ability of controlling someone’s actions or inactions.  If you spent your life concentrating on what everyone else thought of you, would you forget who you really were? Would you not follow a path that you otherwise would have? Would you miss out on activities that you really wanted to try because of the fear of being judged or laughed at?

Social media seems to have magnified this need of being “liked”. The number of likes, or lack thereof, concern us on our social media pages, triggering a sense of social anxiety. Continue reading